 -Pastor Melissa Fain- Creation always begins the same way all creation begins, with nothing. Then the blueprint for the creation comes into existence. For me, that blueprint is almost always in my brain. I imagine what needs to be built. I see it in its entirety, and pull it apart mentally. Then, I only have to figure out the pieces to the whole, not the whole item itself. The problem today:
That's all. Just explaining why we live in a creative vacuum right now. That's the conclusion of my soap box, enjoy the rest of your day. -Pastor Melissa Fain- What I’m about to share is the truth. It's an old truth. I don’t share it to garner sympathy, although there was a time I used it for that purpose. I don’t share it to rally people against anyone else. Woundedness breaks, always. I share to teach. I want everyone to know that I know the consequence because I was the consequence once. When I was a child my dad and mom divorced. I’m not here to discuss whether or not divorce is an acceptable boundary to break, but my short answer is, it can be. In a perfect world, the contract one makes to unite as a family should be unbreakable. No one would enter into such an agreement without fully understanding the ramifications. That’s just not the case. People create bad marriage contracts all the time, making promises they either can’t keep or don’t plan to keep. Bad contracts need to be broken. That’s simplified. It deserves its own post, and maybe I’ll give it in the near(ish) future. When they divorced, it was decided by the judge that mom’s were better caregivers, so my mother won custody of my sister and myself. That was the judge’s belief; not law. I’m not here to discuss whether or not using one's personal feelings to rule is just. The short answer in my case, was no. At the time of the ruling, my mother was a broken individual, and from more than just the divorce. Brokenness, when left alone, breaks others. Always. My mother needed to process and heal, not take care of two children by herself. Even this deserves its own post, and I’m not going to write it anytime soon. My mother found her next husband at a bar. I don’t even know if he’s still alive! I just know, he was a piece of work. He’s still the most selfish adult I have ever met. Back in April of 2014, I wrote about the difference between selfishness and self-centeredness. It was in regards to the Common English Bible, and one of the times I disagreed with the translation. I’m not going to spend this time re-hashing what has already been hashed. (You can click the link for that.) Here’s the summary: We are born entirely self-centered. We can’t understand the world around us, only ourselves. As we grow up, there comes a point when we finally understand and see others. It is at that point we can begin to become other-centered, selfless, or selfish. Any of these can be good or bad. My stepdad was completely and totally selfish. He could see what others needed, and then use their need to get what he wanted. For example, he needed a place to stay, so he pretended to care about my mom. Once he was in the house the hitting started. He wanted to spend the child support money on himself, so he told my dad he could just take us and avoid the lawyers if he just kept paying the payments. This human mentally and emotionally scared myself and my sister to get the things he wants. I’m not even talking about him, even if he crossed some very clear boundaries to get what he wanted. I need to talk about the “innocent” boundaries we think are just a-o-kay to cross. The Reasons Boundary Training Really Exists.Boundary training, first and foremost, exists to protect those who can’t protect themselves. It’s like a giant net, meant to help people understand where something dangerous could happen, and catch it before it happens. Boundary training is also a way to pass the blame down. I know that’s a horrible take, but it’s a true one. A corporation doesn’t want to be sued for something an employee or volunteer did, and easily got away with during their time and space. Boundary training is a warning to the people taking them. A corporation will blame the people around the person hurt by broken boundaries. After all, they were trained and taught how to avoid those kinds of dangers. I hate that people will allow someone to get hurt until their own wellbeing is on the line too, but there it is. Most of us are more selfish than we wish to realize. Boundary training, in VERY RARE CIRCUMSTANCES can be breached. Consider space. I mean space space. Like, what’s beyond Earth. Our atmosphere is a boundary. Staying within it, allows us to do neat things, like breath. There are a very select few that breach that boundary to explore. These people go through intense training, and create individual boundaries (i.e. spaceships) to remain safe when Earth’s boundary is breached. Human boundaries should require the same level of care. You can’t just say, “Well, I’ll keep an eye on it. It’s not fair that having this boundary keeps some people from participating. SPACE for EVERYONE!!!” Thinking about it in relation to space, you realize how dangerous it really can be. For me, if I have to make the choice between someone being able to participate with the possibility of a lifetime of trauma being handed to someone, and not allowing that someone to participate… not a difficult choice. I’ll leave boundary breaking alone. Boundary training, when followed, makes those who will break the rules stay away. Here’s a big truth: There will always be people who try to break boundaries in order to take advantage of others. My stepdad for one. Boundary breakers don’t want to work at breaking boundaries. If your lines are set, and immovable, people who want to cross them will stay away. You will make your space safer. Then, when you get a boundary breaker in your group, solid boundaries make it easier to see they are trying to do something against the rules and catch them. What Boundaries have done for me.There was one statement that changed my life when it comes to boundaries. Years ago, I was certified in Mental Health First Aid. One of the presenters basically said this:
“If you meet someone struggling to stay within the boundaries your organization chose to keep, don’t move the boundary for them. That’s like meeting someone who can’t walk straight and keeps running into the handrail, so you remove the handrail so they don’t hit it. That handrail is the very thing they need to make it to their destination. That boundary is for their safety. When you take away mental boundaries, no matter why they are there, you are making it more difficult for those who already struggle, not less.” It helped me see… Boundaries are an act of love. That above sentence is a life changing one. I have found the more explicit I am about my boundaries, the more healthy relationships I have around me. It’s because they know what to expect, and my limitations to those expectations. At the same time, I have found the key to being strict while being loved. (Let’s not forget, I’m a substitute teacher.) Even being in the same school everyday, there are kids who think a sub means I don’t have boundaries. The kid’s know subs who want to survive move the boundaries so they can get through the day. Those subs are doing it for them. The ones who want to take advantage of breaking the rules, are the ones who love those subs. The sub gets easy love, and an easy day. (Don’t think I’m holding it against them. Many districts don’t care about their subsystems the way they should, and I don’t hold it against these subs that are being thrown into systems.) When I tell the kids I follow the school boundaries, they learn that it is for them. It’s not easy to set boundaries. When you draw the line, you must be ready to follow through when a kid crosses it. When you have very explicit boundaries, suddenly they can move within them. I might be the strictest sub in Paulding County Georgia, but I still get kids that are excited I’m their sub. They like me! That’s because, since they know where I stand, they know when they can show me what they created, or joke around a little. It takes so much work to give them that gift, but in giving them strict boundaries, I eventually gain something back. That goes for everything! I’m acting in love when I am clear about boundaries in all things. When I say, “No,” I’m following God’s example in Job when talking about the oceans: “Who enclosed the Sea behind doors when it burst forth from the womb, when I made the clouds its garment, the dense clouds its wrap, when I imposed my limit for it, put on a bar and doors and said, “You may come this far, no farther; here your proud waves stop”? Job 38:8-11 CEB Therefore, please realize I know the destructive power of breaking boundaries (because I was once the target of its breach), and the ultimate act of love in following them. That’s my systematic theology. Love. -Pastor Melissa Fain- As the restart of Student Loans looms, everyone waits to see what Biden will do. It is my hope, by the time I share everything I want to share, you see how impossible all this is. I don’t do this to dishearten you in any way, but as a means to show grace. The recent historyAt the end of 1965 The Higher Education Act was signed into law with the understanding that it would give women and minorities funding to go to post-secondary and higher level schooling. The Higher Education Act was amended multiple times throughout the years, to include funding for historically Black Colleges (1986), origination of the FAFSA forms to keep those with drug charges from getting loans [you know, the war on drugs and all] (1998), Income-Based Repayment and Public Service Loan Forgiveness was introduced (2007). Another story, but it’s about our economy: After World War II, there was an economic boom. Some of this was our desire to be relational. It was the explosion of community organizations. Scouts, Shriners, Churches, and the like all saw record numbers. These adults were called “The Greatest Generation.” They would give birth to the “Boomers,” named such because there was also a baby boom following the end of World War II. (I want to add as an aside, directly after the Boomers, Gen X were born. They get left out of these generational tales because their parents were the Silent Generation. The Silent Generation was born between Boomers and The Greatest Generation, they had to work hard, and their kids were literally forgotten at home as they were in history. Love y’all.) The Boomers were taught one-sided lessons. Children’s stories were sanitized of horror and death. See, their parents were witnesses to the absolute worst of humanity. They did not want their children to live in that kind of world. The work ethic was drilled into the Boomers. Work hard, and if you work hard enough, what you want will happen. Well, that’s easy to say, when the economy is good. When economic waters rise, all rise with it. When Boomers had their own kids, they went one step further, and created no-lose situations. Everyone's a winner. It’s understandable, because the Greatest Generation sent a mixed message. On one hand, they hid the darkest parts of the world from their kids. On the other hand, they created the competitive spirit, where Boomers were forced to fight for the best of the best. When you don’t see the horror of death, your standard for what is the worst naturally changes. The worst became one another. So, taking a line from their parents, Boomers sanitized the games. Because everyone was a winner, they still had the strong work ethic that existed in a strong economy. The Millennials were told to do the work, and get the reward. Everyone won, so there was no field where winning wasn’t an option if only they worked hard enough. Of course there were losers, but that’s only because they didn’t give it their all. If they had tried harder, they would have made it. Millennials flocked to college with the promise of good paying jobs on the other side of the diploma. 2008 Here is where everyone is getting this wrong: Underwater Basket Weaving. That was the degree that was used to highlight every pointless degree, and weaponized to point out useless student loans. At the very same time, there were shows highlighting the obsessiveness of parents grooming their children for fame and fortune, as if those two things were naturally related. With shows like American Idol coming into existence, the big fish in a little pond ceased to exist. Every person could apply for any job. While that sounds amazing for potential jobs, it wasn’t. It made the job market even more competitive. You couldn’t just be like Howard Finster, a middle of nowhere minister who became a sensation with his folk art. You had to be flawless in everything. People were spending big money on artistic degrees, because they were competing with big names. So, over half of all Millennials either had a degree or were in the process of getting one when the stock market crashed and the housing bubble popped. The rest were still being told they can be the best of the best, if they only tried hard enough. And, not all those degrees were, as some would put it, “useless” degrees. It’s just that there were no useful jobs after 2008. Basically, in 2008, retirements just went away. All these Boomers wanted to do was get to that retirement. When they didn’t have it anymore, they went back to work. They were already more qualified than their children, so their kids, with their very expensive degrees, found themselves as retail workers and servers living in their parents' basement. This was mocked. Relentlessly. Boomers were pitted against Millennials, and it stuck. Kids started hating their parents because their parents were holding them to their childhood situation like the Millennials could do anything about it. Millennials made it work. They started paying back their loans, and working low income jobs. There was no breathing room. They were living paycheck to paycheck, because they had no other choice. 2020 Covid led to the Student Loans being paused, and it has temporarily changed a Millennial’s life. This has been great for a generation that hasn’t seemed to catch any breaks at all, but there are choices coming that will change the entire United States for decades to come. Canceling the debt:I believe, part of the reason the loans haven’t been restarted is this is an election year. You start the loans back up in September, and it becomes the focus for the November election. (Of course, I can also see why a President, with a tanking economy, would consider putting something like that at the forefront of the Election year.) That being said, let’s say we cancel all that debt. It’s a clean slate. With everything else in play, there is no way this won’t happen again. Businesses need to start offering local education opportunities. Trade schools need to be a better option for more people. The allure of fame needs to be crushed, put in a dumpster and set on fire. Universities will still offer an education to the people willing to pay for them, but if there are enough affordable options, they’ll necessarily need to lower costs to compete. Right now, kids must get these huge loans in order to seek an education. I know my eldest child wants to go to school and get a music education degree. He’s seriously considering not doing that, because there are no inexpensive options. Any forgiveness for my debt won’t save him when he needs to make similar choices. Let’s say we don’t cancel all that debt. Then what?The Federal reserve is attempting to stop inflation without considering these student loans. I wouldn’t be surprised if the Fed is quietly realizing that their aggressive interest rate hikes will hit hard after the restart to all these loans. Perhaps too hard, which is why there’s this vacuum of silence over the issue. Now, you might be thinking, “Not my debt, not my problem.” That is such an American answer, I can’t fault you for thinking it. Only, it is our collective problem. One of the major factors to the economic boom following the Great Shutter (coined that term myself, but it’s too good to have me be the only one who used it) was all these families finally having breathing room to save and spend. They put their kids in programs, purchased items from our independent businesses, and just had a chance to finally breathe. Some changed careers, no longer feeling anchored to a degree they couldn’t use. Let’s put it another way. When I was a kid, I wanted to pair up with someone about the same size as I was, so when I got to the playground I had someone with whom I could play on the seesaw. Finding the perfect person was vital. If the person was too light, I would be sitting on the ground, doing all the work. If the person was too heavy, I’d be at the mercy of the other person, stuck in the air. A person, the same size, is a fun experience of back and forth. When it comes to the economy, the Federal Reserve doesn't want a seesaw. They want an equilibrium. To use another word for seesaw, they teeter totter between inflating and deflating the dollar. If the dollar deflates too much we end up in a recession, or worse a depression. On the other hand, if the dollar inflates too much we end up in hyper-inflation and the worst case scenario is something along the lines of the Weimar Republic. Now imagine the U.S. Economy is a seesaw. We were tottering too much into inflation territory. The Fed had to act immediately. They needed the economy to slow their spending, to bring equilibrium back to the economy. Now, their work is finally working, but they found this equilibrium without student loan debt being in play. So going back to my playground story. It would be like my friend and I balancing in the middle and a kid, really any kid, jumps on one side. It throws everything off, and suddenly I’m crying and on the ground because the seesaw became a simple catapult, and I was ready for that kind of jump. See the problem?It’s no longer about what’s fair or not fair. At this point, restarting loans could have a catastrophic effect on the economy that would hurt far more than the people who took them out.
This is one piece, when there are so many other pieces at play right now. This might seem like a pretty big piece to the American economic story , but the other pieces are just as big, if not bigger. I mention this here, because I just want us to realize this is our story. Our repercussions. We can’t just cut ourselves away from this. We are doing this together, whether we want to or not. I believe, God wants us to work together. God wants us to find the answers together. God wants us to see our neighbor. -Pastor Melissa Fain- I was reading a commentary on the Book of Hosea last week, when a parallel hit me. Remember how this moment feels. In forty years, people will be asking us why we didn’t know. Systematic TheologyWhen I was in Grad School we were using Karl Barth to understand the idea of Systematic Theology. Systematic Theology is basically consistency. If you say A about one idea, it will mean the same thing whether you are talking about B, D, or even Z. To say someone has a systematic theology is to say they have connected the dots. It’s not a piecemeal set of thoughts. Every way the theology works should be interconnected. I say, “should,” because breaking a systematic theology is all about finding even one time it does not. Like pulling a bad loop from a metal chain, the whole chain loses its tension and becomes worthless. Then, you can’t just decide to work with a smaller chain, because the theology is systematic, it must include all. It’s actually for that reason I’d consider myself a Systematic Theologian. I’m never done. It’s a thought process that can continue to evolve and layer itself, as I understand more about myself, others, and the world around me. Theology in GeneralWhat you believe, and how you believe is important no matter who you are. Theologies are not the sole property of religious groups. I know, for those of you who know how theology is defined, that might seem backwards, but hear me out. A theology is the study of the nature of God and religious belief. Now, you might hear that definition and completely discount my above statement. However, there are many ‘studies’ that still fit the definition while not including the subject of the study. Here are some examples: I’m sure there are hydrologists (those who study water) studying the lack of water at Lake Mead right now. There are atmospheric scientists (those who study the atmosphere) who are interested in the lack of atmosphere on other planets. There are food scientists very aware of food deserts, and are trying to figure out how to change them. Even those who talk about religious experience, delve into the subject of what it means if God did not exist. The problem with Atheistic views on the Divine, is it takes extreme points of view. Either, a lack of God would be total depravity (the religious take on a universe without a God), or an enlightened utopia (the Atheist take on a universe without a God). Let me put it this way, I have yet to see a solid Atheistic Theology. Either it’s Christian demonizing Atheists, or it’s Atheists demonizing Christians. When the person writing the theology is doing so with the express purpose of demonization, you are bound to find yourself in some sort of hell- whether it’s utopian or depraved. I personally don’t like hanging out in man-made hells. I’m getting off track. I believe everyone, Atheist or Religious, needs to openly consider what they believe. If one does not openly seek those answers, other people can take advantage, and sneak their belief systems in. This is actually my major issue with just going to churches just for their programs. The theology of the institution influences everything. You are going for the sweet Children’s Programming, but the programs are where some of the worst theologies are introduced. If I had the means, I’d purchase every VBS program out there and just rip them to shreds in videos. Being SystematicI think our modern fractured nature is one of the biggest issues we have today. We don’t consider the consequences. Good actions could lead to bad effects. Bad choices can help certain people. An action for or against a specific person could actually be for or against a large group of people. It would help us so much to just see the systematic nature of the world around us. That’s not going to happen. Kinda off topic, but go with me. Have you ever seen a factory explode? If you haven’t, here is a short video highlighting an actual factory explosion of the Imperial Sugar Plant, in Savannah, Georgia. If you don’t read anything else, read this. You might feel unhinged. You might feel broken. In the above video it was failure to collect sugar dust and dropped sugar that led to the Imperial Sugar Plant explosion. Everything was working correctly EXCEPT for dust collection. That one issue caused a complete failure of the entire plant. The world is a giant machine. We have creation, distribution and consumption down to a science. In 2020, small pieces were broken. Those small pieces, even though you might not see them or even be near them, are related to each and every one of us. Up until recently, those small pieces only caused small inconveniences. Perhaps you didn’t get the good you wanted at the grocery store, or you had an extra long wait at the hospital. Maybe your school did a digital learning day because they couldn’t find the bus drivers to drive the kids. We felt those things, and that small break, broke us a little too. Now, in 2022, there has been a huge break. What Russia did, and is doing, has done more than kill the Ukraine people. It’s an act of destabilization. The United States is openly talking to China in talks to not give Russia help. This is why the recent trip of Nancy Pelosi to Taiwan, completely counter to what China wanted, is something we need to remember in the coming months. You feel these actions. Even if you don’t follow the news and actively try to avoid it, these are systemic issues that are playing out in the world around us. If you are thinking, “I feel broken, but I’ve been good about self-care, and setting healthy boundaries,” that’s because this is all like a factory explosion. It’s not you, it’s the world. You’re broken because the global machine is broken. Now, whether it grinds to a halt or explodes is the question. Systematic Theology and meHere’s the thing, I don’t just do things. Oftentimes, I’m secretly acting behind the scenes to move people in the right direction. It still baffles me that people don’t ask me why I act a certain way. Unlike many cultish leaders, I don’t want death and destruction. At the same time, unlike many passive leaders, I don’t want to avoid the subject matter either. It doesn’t go away just because we’ve refused to look in its direction. In many cases, it only gets worse if we don’t see it. In this climate, I can’t listen to all hope and joy, because they're empty. Is that what you want? Sorry, I’m out. Despite how all my work towards creating an online ministry looks, I’m the mayor of Realville. I’ve seen too much ignorance in my own childhood to be peddling beautiful lies. Beautiful lies are often laced with poison.
That’s why it all has to connect for me. Christ died for my sins, and I’m called to act in Godly love because of it. Love is not always fun. It’s not always joyous. Love is in the trenches, speaking truth to a world who has forgotten what is real. That is all. Yes, I feel it. Yes, I know you feel it too. Every day is a chance to do what God has called you to do. You do your part just day by day. Maybe you’ll meet someone else doing the same, and then you can work together. Maybe those groups can join up, and then you have the beginnings of a new machine, a machine that can bring this fractured world back together in healthy ways. |
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